It’s Okay To Be Gray

December 21st, 200911:54 am @ Angela Odom


Elizabeth June Photo by Dale Fox

My new favorite website is because it addresses subjects/issues relating to women 40+. Love it and glad to see it. There are so many sites geared toward young folks I find myself passing, passing, passing and sometimes, passing out. They just don’t relate to me.

Then there are the sites that are for everything woman and again, they are mostly everything young women and I cannot relate. There is nothing about me wishing to be young again. My brain may want to write the check but my body cannot cash it.

So, I’ve forgotten about those other youthful sites and have moved on to sites more to my liking, geared more toward living in the moment, 50+, and loving it, which brings me to the article written by a 41-year-old woman who tells the tale of living with gray hair since she was 14-years-old and how a casual stranger made her travel the road of hair schizophrenia.

The article, From 14 to 41: Okay to be Gray is short but to the point. There are others referenced under the aforementioned article as well but this one, written by an African-American woman, is more to the point for me. We have a tendency to do anything but gray, as in blonde — Oh Lord! — but never gray.

Opinions, like bumholes, everyone has one and it is not uncommon to hear someone tell you what you should do and why you shouldn’t do something else like, for instance, be yourself. The other day, not feeling the wig, I chose to go out visiting without the mop. One friend looked long and hard at me and asked, finally, “where’s the wig?” I told her I didn’t feel it today and, after much thought, decided to ditch it and instead wear long earrings and makeup only. Again, after long contemplation, she stated “aren’t you afraid people will stare?” “Oh Lord help us” I said and “so what if they do?” As it turned out, no one stared — that I could see or cared to see — and as a matter of fact, I was complimented. One woman actually said she wished she could wear her hair as short as mine but she did not feel quite so daring. Tis a shame we allow others to so strongly control our lives.

Back to the article, Elizabeth June (pictured above) talks about her first experience when someone with an opinion approached her about her gray hair. She says: “One day while shopping for some groceries for my mom, a lady stares at me for a moment then walks up to me and says ‘You’re too young to have a gray hair-why don’t you dye it!’” From there she became a “dyeing, lying, wigging, weaving maniac.”

Loved the article and love the site. You can read the rest of the article on here.